Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Suicide and Bipolar Disorder

It's a very scary topic, but one that needs to be discussed openly and taken very seriously. Suicidal thoughts are a symptom for many people suffering with bipolar and other mood disorders. With the right tools and coping methods, these thoughts can be distracted.

Sadly, there are some out there plagued with these terrible thoughts with no resources to turn to. And it is for these people and their families that I share this post and accompanying article.

When I was growing up, my mother threatened to kill herself almost monthly. It happened so often that I actually told her to, "...go ahead and just DO it!" Remember, I was only a teenager tired of dealing with her illness that none of us understood or knew how to help her cope with. Then I got a kick in the ass with reality when I realized she might have actually done it.

When I was twelve, my mom was seeing this loser of a man. He was twice her age, married with three grown boys and had no intention of every leaving his wife. He promised my mom endlessly that he would but it never happened. He was a waste of human flesh who knew my mom was sick, and knew just how to manipulate her into doing and believing whatever he wanted her to.

One night near the end of their relationship, I stopped him from beating her up (again). As I watched him walk away from the house (after threatening to call the cops on him), I went into the kitchen to find my mom holding a butcher knife to her arm over the kitchen sink. That scared the poop out of me because she didn't just verbally threaten to hurt herself; she was in the position to do it. I talked her down from it but reminding her of the other things she had to live for, but in retrospect, I was so lucky I had been there.

Sadly, my mom did end up killing herself eventually. A long, slow death through what booze, smoking, drugs and other bad choices had done to her body. But that night in the kitchen haunted me for the rest of my life. A few years down the road, I actually attempted suicide too. For those who have never been in that frame of mind, understand that death is an attractive alternative for those of us suffering with these disorders. To never have to feel these terrible symptoms again or the overwhelming feelings of lack of control is comforting in a crazy way. But it's not the answer.

Most people living with bipolar have a chance to live healthy, productive lives as they learn the best coping tools specific to their symptoms, take their meds and follow what their therapists guide them to do. Yes, there are some who can't seem to cope no matter what options they are given, but their lives still matter. It is so important to take all threats of suicide or suicidal thoughts very seriously, and to take action immediately. Even if all you do is bring your loved one's therapist over for him or her to talk to, do something.

This article is an important one. Writer Julie Fast discusses her own battle with dealing with suicidal thoughts and what it's really like. There are some very powerful tips in here that would prove useful to those dealing with this issues, as well as those who want to help. Click HERE to be taken to the article.

Feel free to share it with anyone you think may need it!

9 comments:

  1. For those who have never been in that frame of mind, understand that death is an attractive alternative for https://www.rx247.net those of us suffering with these disorders. To never have to feel these terrible symptoms again or the overwhelming feelings of lack of control is comforting in a crazy way.

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    1. Yes, it is, Farnandas. That is why close friends and relatives should arm themselves with information so we can help these people stay with us. I do understand what it's like to be in that mindset, and the attractiveness of knowing we can end those overwhelming feelings and lack of control. But I'm happier to do it HERE.

      Thank you so much for your comment.

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  2. Thank you for the voice of a child who lives with a parent with mental illness.

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    1. Oh, Brenda. (((HUGS))) to you. I know how you must be living. I grew up with a mother who had untreated bipolar. It can be so, so hard.

      Please feel free to come back here anytime, okay?

      xo

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  3. HiChynna,

    I am living with schizophrenia and is fortunate not having to suffer with constant suicidal thoughts.

    In the past, I believe my irrational mind filled with diverse hallucinations and delusions made me believe that the devil was trying to get me to commit suicide on a few occasions- Once I was watching a religious program and then the screen read "how to commit suicide," then while stealing a truck while not in a rational mind I believed the devil was communicating to me through the song on the radio, trying to get me to commit suicide, again- I was frightened, but I distracte myself, and I never forgot those experiences.

    I have friends who battle with suicidal thoughts and others who've tried suicide in the past. I cannot imagine having regular thoughts of suicide. I am thankful to have distracted my thoughts from the "devil" and never attempted harming myself.

    Sad story, but great awareness.

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    1. Wow, Ashley. Thank you so very much for your insight. I am so glad to know that you have been able to deal with and cope with your own suicidal thoughts. It can be a very terrifying thing. You are very brave to share your story here.

      Thank you again. And please feel free to come back anytime.

      Love, Chynna

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  4. Chynna, my mother, who was bipolar, committed suicide the day before Christmas 2012. As much as she had been depressed at various times throughout her life, I never once heard her talk about ending her life.

    My Dad died Feb. 2012, and immediately afterwards, Mom flew up into mania until she required hospitalization. I saw it as her way of not dealing with Dad's death. And as she came down and rejoined reality, she never really leveled out. She went right down into a very deep depression- once again, not being able to process the death. Despite regular mental health care, including a hospitalization last fall, she never came out of her depression.

    Things were complicated by her becoming more and more confused (dementia). And finally, when we were trying to open a discussion about her moving into assisted living (at the urging of her doctors), she thought we were trying to dump her into a nursing home. She decided to end it, and OD'd.

    The interesting thing for me, is that because I have been able to contact her spirit, using some local mediums, she was surprised at how hard we were all grieving at her death. She thought we'd all be relieved that we wouldn't have to deal with her any longer. So, even in the decision of her final act, she couldn't take responsibility and just be ok with not wanting to be here any longer. I know that she's ok now, and her illness is gone. But she has to look back over her life and judge herself and learn to be ok with everything- and it might take a while. She'll get there.

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    1. What an incredible journey you have been on. My heart goes out to you. But I'm happy to see you have stayed strong and grounded throughout all of this. I hope your mother, from where she is now, is able to come to terms with all that happened to her. Then she can finally have peace. Thank you for being brave enough to share your story. xo

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