Monday, June 11, 2012
Defining Your Own Path: The Art of Loving Your Life
I talk about defining our own path alot here on White Elephants. The reason for this because life is very hard and when we face adversity, we all tend to beat ourselves up a bit. Most of us are able to pick ourselves up, then trudge on. Some of us, however, have a much more difficult time.
Those of us who have suffered any sort of childhool trauma or who have mood or other disorders that try pulling us back as we strain to move forward often feel the effort in getting back up is too much. We are more likely to give up, believing those awful tapes that were set for us so long ago. And that's dangerous because it's at that point where we tend to turn to old, harmful ways of coping. Believe me when I tell you, that's when you have to find the strength...no matter how small it may be...to get up and move forward.
I had my childhood taken away from me on almost every level. By the time I became a teenager, I was so jaded and filled with anger I made some terrible choices. As an adult, I still felt like a child trying to be a grown up because I hadn't been taught the tools to life live most effectively. But you know what? It didn't matter how many times I was knocked down, turned around, derailed or hurt, I didn't give up. I couldn't give up.
I wasn't going to become part of the statistics that said 'kids like me' who grew up with violence, abuse, mental illness or other negativity became those things. Every day, I live my life to stay on the path I've defined for myself filled with hope, love, strength, encouragement and positive energy. I'm not going to say that it's always easy to keep facing forward or that there aren't times I don't hear those negative tapes whispering to me to fall of course. What I am saying is to be strong enough to be all you're meant to be today despite what you've gone through. Ride over the bumps as best as you can and coast along the rest at a speed that's comfortable.
You define your path--not your past, not those who have hurt you and not your disorder. You. And that's the art of loving your life.
[Starting next week, we'll be starting a new series here on White Elephants where we'll be learning this art and I hope you'll join me.]
I wrote today’s post as part of the WOW-Women on Writing’s “The Art of Loving Your Life” Blanket Tour celebrating the release of Chique Secrets of Dolce Amore by Barbara Conelli (http://www.barbaraconelli.com)./
Her latest book, Chique Secrets of Dolce Amore offers an intimate view into the unpredictable and extravagant city of Milan, its glamorous feminine secrets, the everyday magic of its dreamy streets, the passionate romance of its elegant hideaways, and the sweet Italian art of delightfully falling in love with your life wherever you go.
If you comment on today’s post on this blog or any of the others participating in The Art of Loving Your Life tour, you’ll be entered to win a signed copy of Chique Secrets of Dolce Amore! You have until June 25th to comment to win and the winner will be announced on June 29th.
(To read Barbara’s post about loving life, click HERE. To view a list of other blogs participating in The Art of Loving Your Life tour please visit The Muffin.)